Dear Mommie Nicole 101

It's funny that people get into relationships that they know are wrong and inappropriate in the first place. They allow themselves to be driven by passion. Reason is overpowered by irritational judgement. They soon find themselves enggaged in a web of deceit, guilt and bitter regret. Since i have a huge volume of friends crying out to my shoulders all the pain they have with their other behalf, this one's for you.

Whatever it was that your lover had with the girl he didn't marry isn't over yet. You know how easy it is for men to sleep with another mother of their children and, at the same time, have an intimate relationship with someone else. It is like commiting a crime over and over and over again and getting away with it.

You allowed yourself to be caught in the middle of his unfinished affair. If he really was serious in his intention, then he had to prove it beyond doubt. Even if he did, you would still have to deal with your own doubts. You love him, that's fine. But love just isn't enough to keep a relationship. Trust, respect and commitment to a relationship are just as important. If a man doesn't show respect, if he does not earn your trust and if he cannot keep his promise then no matter how many times he says "I love you", those words would be empty.

Let this be a lesson to all of us women who are won by flattering words and overwhelmed by weeping and romantic actions. Take time to listen to what men don't say. Take time to look at what they don't show. There are secrets hidden beneath their words. Do not let passion but wisdom decide for us. Always remember that love is something that we all want to have and keep but it has a price. When we cannot decide between what we think is right, let us turn to God for wisdom and guidance. Only he knows what's best for us. There are many times when we know what we are doing is right. But what we believe is right isn't always good for us. The road that we refuse to take is usually the road that leads to a good life. Let us remember to slow down before we plunge into relationship because there will be times when we will fall painfully flat on our faces.

I know that your initial reaction guys would be ... damn you nicole, you can say all these because your happily married and you got a great family, life, your happy and all that ... What i want you to know guys is that it took carlo and i Seven Years for all these. It's not that easy to begin with. The relationship we had is not sacred. Namuhay kami sa kasalanan ng limang taon. We waited for the right time and did the right way to start the right life we should share, a life wherein our children would be proud of growing up with. A happy family on a healthy home. I would like to share with you the reason behind the success of our relationship. We love each other, we love God, we love our child, we plan for our future, we hold on to our dreams, and the most important of all is that we always think of what will make each other happy, and we go for it whatever it takes. I would like all of you to experience the happiness, contentment and peace of mind i am enjoying today. I will pray for that, but you all need to make up your minds and wake up!